Kait Justice arrives at this episode as someone who’s lived—and advocated—through chronic illness - either labeled or not. She carries fibromyalgia, Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, dysautonomia with POTS, cervical cranial instability, and a decade’s worth of misdiagnosis. And the conversation Nick, Beth, Soso, and Stephanie navigate with her speaks to the messy reality: what it means to build a life, create work, and parent children when your body is constantly recalibrating its own architecture.
The discussion opens with Kait’s own adventure of discovery—years spent thinking she was lazy, unreliable, weak—only to find that her connective tissue was literally decomposing. Kait’s description of her tendons as “rotted rubber bands” that never snap back becomes a kind of emblem for the rest of the discussion on pain and fatigue. It’s your body operating without structural scaffolding, your muscles compensating endlessly, your mind forced to become a kind of medical detective just to function. What emerges from this hour is a portrait of illness as part of our existence that shapes so much of our lives—and therefore must be managed with the same intensity you’d bring to a career, a relationship, or a home. Kait has learned to advocate for her daughter; and she’s learned to ask doctors educated questions instead of accepting dismissals.
The conversation around EDS particularly cuts deep. The hosts track how Kait’s diagnosis shifted everything—not just treatment but identity, parenting, the way she understands her past. Why was she always the kid who couldn’t do what everyone else could? Because her joints don’t stay in place. Why does her daughter’s kneecap dislocate at school and send her to the hospital? Because she inherited the same faulty connective tissue. But Kait got early intervention for her daughter, which means her daughter might avoid the cascading pain Kait now experiences in her late thirties.
Kait gives us a great example of self-regulation, care, and a knowledge gained through suffering - and she’s deploying it to protect the next generation.
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